Also a passive-aggressive reminder that all radical queers need to get on with boosting and fighting for lgbt immigration issues, especially in the UK where it’s reached Monty Python levels of oppressive absurdity. Seriously very few people know that judges legitimately ask questions like “have you read Oscar Wilde?” and “do you use sex toys?” to lgbtq asylum seekers from countries that have the death penalty for being out, believing the UK to be this beacon of tolerance and queer politics, and I find it revolting that many are not making this a primary concern in queer activism.
“What makes the non-South Asian person’s use of the bindi problematic is the fact that a pop star like Selena Gomez wearing one is guaranteed to be better received than I would if I were to step out of the house rocking a dot on my forehead. On her, it’s a bold new look; on me, it’s a symbol of my failure to assimilate. On her, it’s unquestionably cool; on me, it’s yet another marker of my Otherness, another thing that makes me different from other American girls. If the use of the bindi by mainstream pop stars made it easier for South Asian women to wear it, I’d be all for its proliferation — but it doesn’t. They lend the bindi an aura of cool that a desi woman simply can’t compete with, often with the privilege of automatic acceptance in a society when many non-white women must fight for it.”—Beyond Bindis: Why Cultural Appropriation Matters (via galifreyy)
Aderonke’s family was killed and she was arrested, tortured, and sentenced to death in Nigeria – because she’s a lesbian. She fled to safety in the UK.
Now, they’re trying to send her back into danger. Aderonke, like dozens of other LGBT asylum-seekers, is stuck in a process that the UK government has already admitted to humiliating and abusing them. It doesn’t work or protect anyone.
But, if thousands of us speak out right now, we could get the Home Office to take the next step and halt the deportations. Will you sign the petition to Home Office Secretary Theresa May now?
Please sign the petition to stop her deportation! 70,792 people have already signed this petition. We’re almost at the goal of 75,000 signatures.
(ETA: Seems you can only sign from the UK; definitely share if you have followers there!)
Rubeus Remus Potter. You were named after the only two people at Hogwarts who seemed to give shit about me, because come on who else would I name you after? A verbally abusive dickbag who was in love with my mum and gave me shit all my life and someone who convinced a bunch of children that they needed to be soldiers? What kind of awful aspirations would that make you end up having? Come on son I’m not an idiot…
Many people will never understand how I feel, but what matters to me is that I understand myself, even if I can’t find myself in words.
This is such a lovely read! I’m definitely trying to forget about how others perceive me and my gender and just express myself however feels comfy. Accepting that gender can be ambiguous and fluid and that there is no problem with that is super important.
“All the while, I knew that a way bigger mistake would have been to try to stifle the inner voice that was telling me I wasn’t happy and that I needed things to change—again. ”
Really great piece on transitioning, then transitioning again.